Catch a Cheating Husband or Wife

Catching a cheating spouse or “significant other” requires the skills of a private investigator. Cheaters and those involved in infidelity expend a great deal of energy keeping their affair hidden. To make things more difficult, the motto of any cheating spouse is “deny, deny, deny!”. Read some Common Questions people ask, or the 30 Signs of Infidelity checklist.

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How to Catch a Cheating Spouse

First one has to be aware of the signs of infidelity and determine which ones apply to your situation. Second, you need to analyze the opportunities for being unfaithful. Third, you need to consult with an experienced private investigator to devise the most efficient strategy to catch the cheater in the act. Lastly, you need to assist the infidelity investigator in executing the plan to obtain the evidence.In many cases the cheating person, (husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, etc.) has been lying about the affair for months or years. You may have gotten to the point where you are questioning your own sanity about whether you are imaging it or not. Partnering with a professional investigator for your cheating spouse can bring objectivity and sanity to the process of solving your problem.

How do you go about getting started?

Call Tristar Investigation for a free consultation concerning your specific situation. We work with you to devise the best strategy for success and our private investigators are experienced with infidelity investigations. If you need more background information on what we do and how we do it, refer to our Spousal Surveillance Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ’s) page for details. Our toll free line for your consultation is (800) 487-0947. Or you can e-mail us at or get a free price quote.

Frequently Asked Questions

I feel embarrassed about even talking to someone about this.

We get calls every day from people in relationships who suspect their spouse or significant others of cheating. It is nothing to be embarrassed about. What you are seeking is peace of mind about something you are not sure of. It is natural to seek to determine if your suspicions are real or imagined. We invest a tremendous part of ourselves in relationships. It is natural to want to determine the strength and integrity of that relationship.

What if I am wrong?

If there is no evidence the subject is cheating, you will have gained peace of mind about your relationship. Since our investigations are 100% confidential, you will not have risked sacrificing the relationship if you are wrong.

How do you follow someone?

The techniques of tailing someone are an acquired skill. When following someone we are constantly weighing two factors against each other. First we want to stay close enough to make sure we do not loose the subject at a traffic light or in heavy traffic. However we are constantly balancing this against staying so close that we run the risk of being observed by the subject. The art of balancing these two factors in a variety of situations can executed well only by having an experienced investigator working the case. In some cases a second agent is preferable or required which allows us to keep safer distances while not minimizing the chance of loosing the subject.

Will the suspected cheater find out that they are being watched?

Our surveillance investigations for cheating situations are 100% confidential. We do everything necessary to insure the covert nature of the investigation. If we ever perceive that the security of the investigation is threatened, we pull back and with your input reconsider the tactics being deployed.

What evidence will I receive at the conclusion?

The evidence collected in domestic spouse surveillance consists of the videotape of the activities and a surveillance report which details all the activity in writing. Both are submitted to you, or if you wish we can maintain them for you.

30 Signs To Help Spot a Cheating Spouse

A cheating spouse or significant other will tend to exhibit some of the signs of infidelity listed below. Signs of a cheating husband or wife include unavailability at work, increased time away from home or unusual cell phone usage, or other signs of infidelity. If more than a few of the indicators below are present, the next step is to conduct surveillance to confirm your suspicions.

While at Home

There are a few key behavioral patterns to take notice of your spouse while at home.

  • Sudden increase in time away from home
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  • Decreased sexual interest
  • Subject is often distracted and day dreaming
  • Subject is often unavailable at work
  • Subject attends more work functions alone
  • Cell phone calls are not returned in timely fashion
  • Subject leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone
  • Subject uses computer alone and secretly
  • Subject asks about your schedule more often than usual
  • Mileage on car is high when only short distance errands are run
  • Clothes smell of perfume, massage oil residue and sex
  • Clothes contain makeup or lipstick smudges
  • Subject gets his laundry done independently
  • Viagra usage increases

Receipts, Records & Documents

This is a very data driven approach to gather proof, looking at documentaion, reciepts may help uncover some clues.

  • Credit card bills contain unusual gifts, travel, restaurant and “unspecified” charges
  • Gas credit cards contain uncommon locations of gas stations
  • Unexplained payments on bank statements
  • Subject has more cash on hand without accountability
  • Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration
  • Home phone and calling card records contain calls with long duration
  • Business phone records contain unusual calls
  • Subject has unexplained receipts or personal effects in wallet

Technology, Cell Phones, Emails

Another effective method of gathering proof, cellphons, emails and other communcation devices are essential in attaining evidence.

  • Subject has suspicious phone voice-mail messages
  • Subject has suspicious cell phone numbers stored or dialed
  • Subject has suspicious text messages
  • Subject deletes text messages immediately
  • Internet web browser history list (this is a record of web sites visited)
  • contains unusual sites
  • Frequent visits to Internet free e-mail accounts
  • Uncommon e-mail messages
  • Uncommon deleted e-mail messages

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Tristar in the news

Tristar Investigation has been featured in a dozens of publications, everything from print to TV and radio. Bellow you will find Burce Robertson interviewed and discussed on famous publications such as the History Channel, New York Times, CNN and a lot more.

News Coverage Highlights

Bruce Robertson is the founder of Tristar Investigation, a private detective agency in Los Angeles, CA. Tristar has a 28-year track record of delivering quality investigative results. Headquartered in West Los Angeles, Tristar has branch offices in San Francisco.

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Real Life Private Eye

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